Do you have a trigger word? Or have you said something, and all of a sudden, your message has gone sideways?

Words are powerful! A word does not always hold the same meaning as what the dictionary says. I thought telling my child she is “special” was a compliment. I see her taking her special qualities and soaring. But, she feels special as less than. How!?! We see “special” in two completely different lights.

Being a parent is its own ball of wax, but add in a child with a brain difference, and I found myself walking over hot coals to get them what they need to succeed. And, more often than not, I was walking on eggshells with great attempts to keep life even. But, life is not even for kiddos with neurodiversity. There are so many uneven moments and challenges to overcome. If I chose to change nothing, would I stand on fiery coals and tiptoe around sharp eggshells? Why? Fear and uncertainty.

What if you could choose fresh air and opportunity for your child? What holds you back from accepting your child has different needs. Why is that not okay? What if you were to embrace their different abilities? Words are powerful. I know that well. Maybe you fear labels or shame or have guilt. How is that serving you in helping your child be the best they can be?

I get it. It took over three years to get my son the help he needed. Our road has been stoned and rutted but also splashed with color and beauty. I’ve walked through swallowed guilt, pitiful shame, and tremendous fears. His journey, peppered with challenges, enlightened his innate qualities within himself. His true gifts within his brain difference came out of the shadows. My daughter’s had to be swallowed whole before I fell upon Life Coaching for her. I didn’t know it existed. And thankfully, it does. She swirled the drain of self-doubt with low self-eestem and negative thinking. Life Coaching lifts her towards her true talents, better equipped with tools for the hard stuff. Coping with a brain difference takes work and effort—both hard for the ADHD brain. Coaching has given her access to skills that help her break through intense emotions, loneliness, and lack of motivation even for doing the things she loves. She is curious, bright, and unbelievably creative. She is a creator. My son is an idea generator and a problem solver with an unrelenting devotion to principles. The choice to embrace difference empowers your mental shift towards the gifts of having a brain difference.  

Yes, parenting children wired differently comes with challenges, but it also offers life in a new and colorful way. Had my parenting journey not been what it has, I would not be writing this message as a trained Life Coach today. You can discover tools that work, at least for now. It is essential to understand the human brain is constantly evolving with experiences. As the brain evolves, tools and strategies may need to evolve, too. This is also where word meaning comes into sight. Experiences change us.  Living life is work and takes personal devotion. Life Coaching is a guide towards grabbing your dreams. Dreams are wishes without a plan. Do you want to parent differently? Do you want a different outcome for your child? Maybe you have a brain difference yourself, and you want to show up for your important people in a more positive way. This is what I help my clients do. Life Coaching helps to form your desired path. I explore with you.

Today, I ask you to be mindful of your words—the words you say inside your head and the words you say and hear. What we say has meaning, which may be different from the person who reads it or hears it. Check-in. Don’t assume you understand what the person means or that the person understands what you mean. Don’t let the message get lost in transition. Paying attention to communication is more crucial than ever. Our society has moved towards communicating behind a closed door, one click away with little thought put into how the message will be received.  If you have questions or ideas about this communication, reach out. Don’t let the conversation stop here. Are you taking what is coming at you, or are you paving the road ahead? The struggle is real, but the outcome can be different. If you too are “special” or loving someone “special,” I hope you will feel this word in greatness!

If you would like to know about finding your way towards choosing your empower me contact Coach Cindy today for a complimentary consultation. You can take your first step by choosing to take control of your path.