By: Cynthia T. North, CALC
April 9, 2022
Behavior can be changed. If you like your behavior, do more of it. If you don’t like your behavior, choose what to do about it.
Life Coaching offers a sounding board to creating your future change. You do not have to settle or accept the way you are. You can grow more of what you like and shift from what you do not.
Behavior work is hard. I am the first to admit its freaking hard. You will want to throw in the towel and quit. Your brain will want to shift back to the way it knows how easiest to operate. But, I can also say in the same breath the me I am growing to be is so much happier. Totally worth the work.
I have been a personal journey to better myself. The work I have done over the past year and continue to do with Positive Intelligence™ has truly given me greater control of my mind and actions. The funny thing is, I’ve realized I am only the expert of myself devoted to continuing to do better for this world.
Through the work of Positive Intelligence™ my sage mind offers me ways to view and behave differently. My saboteurs continue to show up but I know now what to do with them.
“Judge Judy” can be so strong at times that she will fool me into believing she is right. With pause I acknowledge Judy standing over me and shift to a more pleasant perspective being held in the hands of my Angels.
When “Dory” shows up I know I am working in overdrive to please. I can almost feel the high energy like a spring being tightened ready to be let go believing I can make everyone happy. I’m like “Gumby” stretching to meet everyone’s needs.
And then there is “Sticky Stickler.” When she shows up watch out! She is the one I work the hardest to tame. She is strong and wicked. My Sage mind wants ease and flow in my day. Ease and flow looks like a well-kept home, neatness and clean. I’m not ashamed to say I like the carpet lines after a thorough vacuuming. My brain says, “Ahhhhhh, that is nice!” And then the dog runs through my legs from outside and muddy paws streak through the room. He’s excited as all get out zooming all over after taking a nice dump on the lawn and I have fumes coming from my ears. Deep Breath! And another. And probably five more. “It’s okay, it will dry, and I can vacuum it up later. I live on a farm. Mud happens in Kentucky.”
Saboteur’s show up in all of us. They are with us in various ways and throughout our life. It is how we use self-command and awareness that we can shift to a Sage perspective.
I have been so moved personally by my own personal journey that I have continued to learn about Positive Intelligence and how it applies to others. The PQ program is such a gift and fantastic resource for me that I have chosen to be a PQ Coach® member so I can offer this resource to my coaching clients. So many people want answers. The work provided by Shirzad Chamine and his team through Positive Intelligence™ will shift the world through those it touches. With devotion and active choice, you too can be what you want more of.
Seems so simple, but I know it is so hard for my tribe. I want peace and harmony. Two very strong core values of mine. Also core values that can be so hard to achieve in a neurodiverse home. I suppose this is much of why I love to be a Certified Life Coaching specializing in the brain. I want to help.
My Sabotuers
My Strongest Self-Command
Deep Breathing and The Finger Swipe
My Sage Power
Empathize Power
What will you discover?
contact me today to strengthen your self-command muscle.
Cynthia North is a Certified ADHD Life Coach with specific training in ADHD neurobiology and is moving towards continued coach certification with the International Coach Federation and Positive Intelligence®. She works to help all-minded people move from crippled in doubt to capable with clarity. Her passion is guiding the people towards success by empowering others to shine with their abilities through positivity and realized strengths.